Why I Didn’t Make My Own Valentines


Ok, let’s break it down ya’ll. People are going Valentine’s Ker-azy and I’m just not ready for it. Initially I had these grand plans of what I was going to do. I was going Pinterest this holiday off the charts!

I had ideas of Frozen-themed Valentines…

or Lego themed…

Shoot I was going to go all out crafting into the skies above…

Except as I started to calculate the number of Valentine’s I’d have to make (43 between the two boys’ classes), the cost (at least $50), the time I’d have to waste spend on it, plus (as quite a few of my Facebook friends lovingly pointed out) the time it took before it went from grubby little hands to the trash can I realized I could be doing so much more with my life…or for my boys.

Now for those of you that made these, let me be perfectly clear, you are AWESOME. I bow at your feet, I grovel at your mercy, I beg for forgiveness at my jealousy. I WISH I could get my act together enough to do this. To have enough time, energy, and desire to want to make this happen. Truth is, I don’t have it in me. I rather write to all of you lovely people living in my computer, memorize an essay I have to present, or finish a scarf for a lovely little friend.

I really made this!

I really made this!

The Valentines’ wouldn’t even be from my kids. It’d be from my wanting to prove to the world that I can be June Cleaver and Martha Stewart all combined into one. My boys don’t care if it’s all fancy schmancy. They just care about what they’ll get in their mailboxes. Shoot, all I care about is what goods they’re going to bring home for me to devour because, “I need to check if they’re still good.” My boys wouldn’t have helped me to make any of these except to maybe stuff the Ziplocs so they could shove some marshmallows in their little chubby cheeks. Or perhaps they’d help decide which Legos they didn’t suddenly need for their construction project.

So yes, this year was not the year to make Valentines. This was not the year I beat myself up for being not being able to be Supermom. This was not the year I add more to my plate because I already feel like I’m completely doing my children a disservice by being sick.

This was the year to spend a whopping 15 minutes in Target’s Seasonal Section helping the boys decide  if they wanted Lego or Superhero  (I hid the Spongebob option) Valentines. This was the year to only spend $5 for both boys’ Valentines. This was the year to force my children to sit at the table and write their names on 2×3 card stock 26 and 18 times respectively. Then making them (and by them I mean my six year old) rewrite it when he decided to write his name in three separate segments (to make it fair I had my three year old fix the first letter in his name when it was backwards). You see, I’m loving like that and isn’t that what Valentine’s is all about? (Say yes!)



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  1. I’m in the same boat as you with Valentines Day cards! I always want to make something super cute and fun but it just never happens! Oh well it is what it is! Stopping by from #SITSBlogging

  2. Yes, yes, and yes. Good for you!!! It is never worth it to work hard on holiday items at the sacrifice of the joy of that holiday. 😉 #SITSBlogging

  3. Hey there! Stopping by from SITS! These are cute! I love the Frozen-themed ones!
    We just buy the cheap ones at the store haha
    Have a great day!
    Stephanie @ Meet With a Smile

  4. Sing it, sistah! I love this. I love that you WISH you had the time/energy/whatever it takes to make those adorable snowman-marshmallow Valentines, but that you didn’t beat yourself up to do it. Our kids don’t want us to be the Princesses of Pinterest. They just want us to be with them, as we are, doing whatever it is we do best. I would be way too stressed out trying to make fancy Valentines, so it’s better for my kids if we do something simple. Glad I found your blog on the SITS thingy!

  5. No judgement here. you sound like a completely loving mother you has her priorities in all the right places. They won’t remember plane shaped valentines but they will learn that doing right is important. Sounds like your doing great Mom! Thanks for sharing #SITSBlogging

  6. heehee, awesome! I think that’s what you ought to do–it’s kind of sad when the kids can’t even be involved in the valentine’s that THEY will be giving out! I made valentine’s this year, just for my siblings, because it was fun. And I only have 6 of them so it’s not like a whole class worth of valentines!

  7. I also had high hopes and had pinned a bunch of ideas. But, in the end, we did the store bought cards too. I ended up stapling a bag of candy to each one. My 6 & 7 yr old boys “helped” by writing the names on the cards, so I agree that anything more difficult at this age would have simply been from us instead of them.

    Oh, and I LOVE that you hid the Sponge Bob cards. I can’t seem to get away from that yellow thing. #SITSBlogging

  8. Happy Valentine’s Day!!! Oh my gosh! Our boys would love the LEGO-themed Valentine’s!! Thanks for sharing. #SITSBlogging

  9. I agree with you 100%. I try to be a Supermom too but I’ve had RA, another autoimmune chronic illness for 12 years now. With us being snowed in on top of it, I was doing good just getting 3 meals a day on the table let alone handmade valentine’s.

    I really appreciate your humor and honesty in this post and thanks for linking it up with my Small Victories Sunday linkup. I hope you stop back by soon. I’m following you on bloglovin and your social media so we can keep in touch, it seems we have more in common than we’d like.

    Gentle hugs to you and have a good week!

  10. I am such a bad Mom because I am so happy that my boys are long past the stage of Valentine’s. I have never been crafty, so making them was not an option for me, either! You have a really cute post here. Stopping in from Tanya’s Small Victories Sunday.

  11. I so agree with your position and the reasons why. As a former teacher I have seen everything from over the top valentines clearly made by Mom to little pieces of paper with no thought into preparing the valentines. There is a lot of learning going on when a six year old addresses his own valentines. Chunking them over five days by doing four or five a day might help. I have seen keen older students design and make each one with a special personal message to each of their classmates. Now that is pretty special but certainly not an expectation. Take Care, Thea


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